ANGER IS ABOUT CONTROL

Anger means the attempt to CONTROL and this erases equality. One person is in the control requires that the other person must forgo CONTROL of his or her own behavior. Equality is driven out. Freedom is driven out. And those things that can only be given freely- love and intimacy are driven out. Anger is neither a positive nor a negative emotion. It is the way we chose to handle our anger that makes it negative or positive.

Ephesians 4:26-27 And "don't sin by letting anger control you." Don't let the sun do down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. 

James 1:19- 20 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. So get rid of filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls. But don't just listen to God's word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves. For if you listen to the word and don't obey, it is like glancing at your face in the mirror. You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like. But if you look carefully into the perfect law that sets you free, and if you do what it says and don't forget what you heard, then God will bless you for doing it. If you claim to be religious but don't control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless. Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.

Nehemiah 9:17-18 They refused to obey and did not remember the miracles you had done for them. Instead, they became stubborn and appointed a leader to take them back to their slavery in Egypt! But you are a God of forgiveness, gracious and merciful, slow to become angry, and rich in unfailing love. You did not abandon them, even when they made an idol shaped like a calf and said, "This is your god who brought you out of Egypt!" They committed terrible blasphemies.

Psalm 103:8 The Lord is compassionate and merciful, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.

Proverbs 22:24-25 Don't befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul. 

Matthew 5:22 But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment! If you call someone an idiot, you are in danger of being brought before the court. And if you curse someone, you are in danger of the fires of hell.